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Haven't been around much, last year sucked - CrustyCat - 03-04-2022
As the title says. Last year was a terrible year. I think I mentioned it across the street, but I can't remember. Anyway, November 2nd of last year I lost my wonderful wife to melanoma skin cancer. She had been battling it for a couple years now, but eventually it metastasized throughout her body and eventually her brain. I had her quit her job early last year so she could spend time with the kids and grandkids in Alaska, made a trip to see my family in Wyoming, plus other fun things she wanted to do with her lady friends. After it went to her brain, it was very swift, affecting her mobility and speech. She was out doing things with her friends less than a month before she passed away, that's how fast it went. She was a strong woman. She knew what was happening. We went together to the mortuary a month before she passed to pre-plan because she wanted to have a say in what happens. I have put off her celebration of life until next month. I guess I didn't really want to deal with it. I have had her ashes interred at the VA cemetery here, so at least now I know where I'll be someday. Sorry, don't mean to be a downer. Here is a photo of us together in Wyoming last summer.
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Kevin
RE: Haven't been around much, last year sucked - ShadowsDad - 03-05-2022
I never know what to say in situations like this and here is one more case of that. "I feel your loss", seems so trite. That it's the pits is so obvious. If she had faith understand that she is in a much better place. Stay strong (I know, easy to write). Keep bonds with friends and family, if you have faith they are your anchor. Share what you need for support here and we'll do our best.
I attend cardiac therapy and all of us there have one foot in the grave, lost a gent just this week. I still don't know words to say. There are none other than what I gave you. But if we can help we'll try. I can tell you that the next life is just fantastic. BTDT for a very short time. Rest assured in that.
My heart goes out to you for your loss.
RE: Haven't been around much, last year sucked - Twelvefret - 03-05-2022
(03-04-2022, 11:56 PM)CrustyCat Wrote: As the title says. Last year was a terrible year. I think I mentioned it across the street, but I can't remember. Anyway, November 2nd of last year I lost my wonderful wife to melanoma skin cancer. She had been battling it for a couple years now, but eventually it metastasized throughout her body and eventually her brain. I had her quit her job early last year so she could spend time with the kids and grandkids in Alaska, made a trip to see my family in Wyoming, plus other fun things she wanted to do with her lady friends. After it went to her brain, it was very swift, affecting her mobility and speech. She was out doing things with her friends less than a month before she passed away, that's how fast it went. She was a strong woman. She knew what was happening. We went together to the mortuary a month before she passed to pre-plan because she wanted to have a say in what happens. I have put off her celebration of life until next month. I guess I didn't really want to deal with it. I have had her ashes interred at the VA cemetery here, so at least now I know where I'll be someday. Sorry, don't mean to be a downer. Here is a photo of us together in Wyoming last summer.
Kevin
Thank you for sharing. I feel the pain you are experiencing in your words and can only offer my sincere empathy for your loss.
RE: Haven't been around much, last year sucked - Jayaruh - 03-05-2022
The Lord is good. A refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who put their trust in Him.
I am so sorry for your loss. I have an ongoing battle with skin cancer. It is mostly little stuff, but I did have a melanoma removed from the top of my head about 2011. Thanks for sharing your loss with us. I hope you find some comfort among your friends here. God bless.
RE: Haven't been around much, last year sucked - GAW9576 - 03-05-2022
CrustyCat I'm very sorry to read this. However I'm glad to read that she was strong and was also able to spend much of her last days with friends and loved ones.
As ShadowsDad stated "Keep bonds with friends and family, if you have faith they are your anchor." And as Jayaruh said "The Lord is good. A refuge in times of trouble." I hope you have faith. I've shared some of my life story here and the Guys are great. I've had a rough time in the past. I wont get into that more in your thread because I don't want to take focus away from what its about. I mention it though to tell you that from experience Faith and Sharing what you are going through is a really good way to find peace and healing in a difficult situation.
Please reach out if you need someone to talk to. I'm always willing to talk and share my experiences with others.
RE: Haven't been around much, last year sucked - Whiterook - 03-05-2022
Sincere condolences. I have regular checks for skin cancer and I suggest you all do so as well! You have to catch this stuff early.
RE: Haven't been around much, last year sucked - Wchnu - 03-11-2022
So sorry to hear this. Also so sorry it took so long to respond. I had a melanoma cut out of my face several years ago. I keep an eye out for more. It’s good that you two were able to spend that time doing things that were enjoyed. It’s good to see you around. I have missed reading your post!
RE: Haven't been around much, last year sucked - CrustyCat - 03-11-2022
Thanks everyone. I appreciate it.
Kevin